The goal of our work together is to empower you into your authentic embodied sexuality. My role is to be your mentor and coach. I remain clothed throughout the whole experience, just like in other bodywork practices and coachings. Most of the methods require working with the full-body including the genital area. We mindfully discuss your comfort zone to make sure that you feel protected and relaxed. You are in charge of your own experience. and you define the speed of learning.

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Sessions have the following general structure, tuned individually to fit your needs:

• initial discussion

• bodywork

• closing discussion

 

Initial discussion

We start with an initial conversation around what’s going on for the client. We use that conversation to come up with an intention for the session — something that feels useful for the client, wherever they’re at. We define your goals, learning field, assess your current body and mind state. Here are example topics:

• Embodiment Status - how do you inhabit your body, how do you breathe, how do your move, do you make sounds, do you touch yourself, are you feeling pleasure, pain, which parts of the body you feel or don't feel.

• Sexual Biography - what is your sexual history, what are your earliest sexual experiences

• Core Erotic Theme - what are erotic themes that influence your sexual/intimate life, what types of partners do you choose

 

Bodywork

I offer options based on our discussion, and you choose which practice will be most useful for you. A session will always involve the body. But you could be clothed, it might be completely hands-off, doing some breath or focused awareness work. Or it could involve touch that is one way from bodyworker to you. We always set boundaries around touch and clothing, based on what the client’s comfortable with, and in some cases, I’ll remind the client about my boundaries as a practitioner too. We might include one or more of the tools from the following:

 

1. Coming into the Body - a warm-up practice that moves your focus from the thought realm into the feeling. It can include breathwork, dancing, meditation, creating sounds, shaking, moving your pelvis, singing. 

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2. Self-Love Coaching - learning how to provide yourself with self-touch that becomes your personal practice like yoga, meditation, or fitness.

• Orgasmic Yoga - a mindful masturbation practice that allows you to develop a stronger connection to your body, trains the nervous system to feel pleasure, removes the sense of shame towards your body and sexuality, creates a sense of deep connection between your heart and genitals, allows to establish a connection to your values and meaning.

• Self-Love Witnessing - the experience of being seen by the bodyworker in your self-love experience that might heal shame connected to your sexuality, liberate unconscious blocks, help you to connect with your innocent sense of self.

• Self-Love Mirroring - the experience of being mirrored by the bodyworker that allows you to see your body and behavior patterns in how you move, breath, touch. 

• Self-Love Support - the experience of self-love practice in the embrace of the bodyworker that allows you to encounter a deeper sense of unconditional presence, support, and self-compassion.

 

​3. Genital Meditation - experiencing an undisturbed, non-goal oriented meditative genital touch provided by the bodyworker to deeply feel yourself, observe the body sensations, experience a profound level of relaxation, access subconscious states, release blocks. ​Here the bodyworker strokes your genitals in a very mindful, slow way in silence. 

 

4. Pelvis Mappings - establishing a map of your external and internal genital and anal area to understand your sense of feeling of the tissues, releasing tensions, emotionally de-armor.  Here the bodyworker touches point by point external genitals, vagina, anus and asks about our physical sensations, emotions, thoughts. 

 

5. Genital Research Journey - learning and understanding what type of touch brings you pleasure and training your orgasmic and ecstatic potential. Here the bodyworker will provide you with various strokes in the genital area and in a mindful exchange you find the best way of being touched.

 

6. Erotic Massages - receiving a full body erotic touch, where you are supported by the bodyworker but in charge of your own experience. Here you learn to embody ecstatic states, distribute sexual energy and pleasure in the whole body. ​

• Erotic Dance Massage - the experience of tantric style delicate, flowing erotic touch with music and full-body movement.

• Taoistic Erotic Massage - the experience of more focused erotic touch involving breathwork, pelvis movement, genital stimulation that might end with a technique called the Big Draw

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Closing discussion

After the practice, there’s a period of stillness where the client ‘installs’ and integrates what they’ve learned from the body, and then we talk about how it felt, what came up, and how you can integrate it into your regular sex life.  Often we’ll agree on some homework, which could be a range of solo or partnered practices that allow you to continue your learning at home. Once I’m sure you’re back inside your comfort zone and ready to move on, you’ll head back out into the world. If we’re doing a session online, the somatic focus is basically the same, just at a distance. ​